Thanks for being a part of my life!

Thanks for being a part of my life!
The people who are a part of a parent’s life have a positive influence on the child’s life, too. Three families express their thanks to the important people in their lives or those who played a special role for them or their little ones.

The people who are a part of a parent’s life have a positive influence on the child’s life, too. Three families express their thanks to the important people in their lives or those who played a special role for them or their little ones.

Thanks to my friend

Benjamin Quintino, dad to 2-year-old Valentina, and his wife, Izabela, arrived from Brazil a little over three years ago. From the outset, Benjamin was in contact with several Brazilians, including Anderson Silva, now a close friend. “Things clicked immediately with him. We get along very well. I want to thank him because he’s an important part of our family life,” says Benjamin.

The two families are very close and meet every Saturday. This bond also benefits Benjamin’s daughter, Valentina. “Since my daughter was born here and goes to daycare all day, she’s a lot more Quebecer than she is Brazilian. I think spending time with Brazilian friends is an opportunity for us to share our roots with her.

“My daughter plays a lot with his daughter, who is two years older. They get along well and it’s good for her to have a close friend. Sometimes they argue, but they’re learning how to settle their conflicts! We often bring them to the park so they can play,” says the dad.

The two dads also help each other out a lot. Anderson babysits Benjamin’s daughter sometimes, and vice versa. “We even share food. When we make a dish, we give some to them, and they do the same. Often, we cook all together. Brazilian food, of course!”

Thanks to two educators

Suzy Wong, mom to 5-year-old Xavier, lived in Quebec City before moving to Laval. Since she was finding it hard to get to know people, she enrolled her son at the Vimont community daycare. “He went two mornings a week,” she says.

Suzy would especially like to thank Geneviève Laquerre and Jade Samson, two community daycare educators who helped her son a lot. “Xavier didn’t want to have anything to do with anyone other than his father and me. Our family doctor even thought it could be an autism spectrum disorder. Jade and Geneviève were really good with him, and he took to them right away. They got him to open up and start trusting people other than us. At the community daycare, Xavier enjoyed doing all kinds of activities like arts and crafts, dancing, singing and so on. He would even insist on going when we were on vacation!” says Suzy.

Suzy and her husband soon saw a difference in Xavier’s behaviour. “He became easier to approach, more articulate, happy and sociable. After less than four months of attending the community daycare, his doctor noted a visible improvement. He concluded that Xavier’s development was entirely normal for his age. This fall, Xavier is attending school in a regular class.

“I’m confident things will go well. If Jade and Geneviève hadn’t been there, it would have no doubt been harder,” concludes Suzy.

Thanks to my parents

Marie-Ève Alarie, mom to 2-year-old Malcolm and 5-month-old Malik, can always count on her parents, Gérard and France Alarie. “I want to thank them for the time they’ve dedicated to their grandchildren since the start. They live close by, and we see them about two to three times a week,” she says.

During her first maternity leave, Marie-Ève also spent a lot of time at their place. “My father has a handicap, but that doesn’t stop him from getting down on the floor to play with Malcolm or bringing him to the park. And no one could match his talent for putting Malcolm to sleep when he was a baby. He also reads him stories. Because his mobility is reduced and he can’t go out as much now, seeing the children puts joy into his daily routine. He’s completely crazy about his grandsons,” she says.

Marie-Ève’s mother does a lot of painting and play dough with Malcolm—activities for which Marie-Ève has little patience. “My mother also sings with him a lot. When his brother was born, I had to stay in the hospital for a few days, and she taught him a beautiful song that he’d sing to me on the phone.”

Marie-Ève and her partner both work full-time and she admits that there are certain things they don’t really have the time to do. “My parents, however, can offer our children a lot of quality time.”

Malcolm is a super outgoing little guy because he was in contact with other adults very early on,” says his mom. “If my parents didn’t live so close, things would have no doubt been different. Given my slightly anxious personality, I would probably have been more protective of him.”

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Source : Naître et grandir Magazine, November 2016
Research and copywriting : Julie Leduc
Scientific review : Julie Brousseau, psychologist

Photo : Morin